I’m not a New Year’s Resolution maker but…I am a goal maker. I am a thinker. I am someone who likes to examine where I’ve been and to see if that is still the course I want to be on. So, with the coming of 2021, I took time to look and see where I was and where I want to be.
I know a lot of people pick a word of the year and focus on that. I’ll be honest. I previously thought that was dumb. This year, after giving my life a big “look and see”, I saw that most everything I wanted to work on had a similar theme and that theme was CONNECTION.
I feel like in 2020 I did a lot better on staying connected with people. I think we had to work harder at it. I’ve made a real commitment to read every single blog post, every single time and I did that. Years ago I used to skim the comments. Now I read with understanding. I read with focus and I read with the purpose of trying to put the pieces of my blog readers together. I’m so happy I have. I have felt so much more connected to blog readers. I’ve started to put together more names with current comments and previous comments. For example, Lisa lives in Alaska and lost her spouse. I recognize her email address in the comments and know it’s her. Carol lives in Florida, quilts for LWR, and was an interior designer. I know many more too. It really helps me understand where they are coming from when they comment. It’s been GREAT! I will keep doing that. It’s made me feel more connected.
I also sent out a lot more mail. My goal is to send out a lot of mail this year as well. I remember as a kid my sister and mom would write letters back and forth. I remember lovingly reading those letters. I loved anticipating letters. I want to write more and more notes and cards. Our daughter Kayla has made a goal in the past to send out 365 pieces of mail in a year. I doubt I will send 365 and I won’t make an official number that I want to send…but Hmm…I wonder if I could increase what I send now. I sure think I could. I’m adding that to my goal list…Connect through the mail.
Speaking of mail…wow! You all have been flooding my mailbox with strips of Halloween fabric. THANKS SO MUCH!!
I appreciate the time you take to make a connection with me. I can feel the love. You are so sweet.
I want others to feel that same sweet connection…so more mail for me in 2021.
My heart is absolutely full every time I spend time with family. Here’s a picture of Kalissa with Jasper and Kayla holding Gannon…I want to spend more time with them all. I love it when they all come and visit me but I want to do better with visiting them too.
Kayla and Jasper were here over break for several days. We had so much fun doing normal things…mostly just hanging out. I had childcare kids here two of the days but I took one day off from childcare. I need to do that more. I want to do that more and being I recognized it as a priority, I didn’t even feel guilty about it.
One of the things that Kayla and I were talking about while she was here was crafting. She said since Jasper’s been born, she hasn’t had the time to knit and crochet like she used to. I told her how it was when she was little and for me, I struggled with having time for crafting and that I had missed that. I went on to say more that life is really about seasons. Whoever coined the phrase “season of our lives” was so right. I told her after the kids got older, I could craft again, and surely, she would too. I told her to enjoy this season. The crochet season will come again.
As the kids all left on New Years Day after the last one went out the door, I sighed a big sigh. Whew! I lived through it all. The house was quiet again. There was a mess to clean, but it was quiet.
It reminded me that I too was going through a season of life. All of these grandbabies are little. Scotty is the oldest and he is five. We’ll have nine grandkids under five after Kelli has her twins. This is my season to chase after them, help with diapers and bottles as soon that season will be gone. Carver isn’t always going to want to give me red paper plates.
Read the story HERE if you missed that.
I need to work to make the connections with my grandkids and my own kids as adults NOW. This time is going to pass way too soon. Time to make a quilt or clean the house can wait. The times of teasing Gannon and saying, “Are you Mommy’s boy or Grandma’s boy?” will come to an end. I need to soak it in now. I need to work on those connections.
There is one more place I want to work on connections at. Adults. Ugh. In my life behind the computer, I’m an introvert. I know, many of you won’t believe that…but I do best right here behind the computer. I don’t do “friends” well. I’m terrible at “stopping by”. I feel awkward going to things and without Kramer, my husband who passed away, I’m even worse. I love getting company. I love it when people drop by…I’m terrible when it means me going out the door and initiating the connection. I want to work to get a little better at all of that. With covid, it’s been easy to not try as covid put many restrictions on us and encouraged us not to try. I want to get more creative and make the connections anyway…even if it’s only by mail. I know I can do better in this department! Connections like this are important too!
So…2021 for me, is the year for better and increased connections. I want to continue to connect with blog readers and increase my connections through the mail. I want to prioritize connections with my family and work to be better connected through friends. All of it comes back to the word CONNECTIONS. It’s my goal for 2021.
Do you have a resolution, goal, or focus word for 2021? We’d all love to hear about it!!