The headstone for Kramer’s grave was placed last week. I didn’t know about it until Sunday night. As it was starting to get dark, I decided to take Ruby for a walk to the cemetery. It’s just a five or so block walk for me. I typically make the trek once a week or so.
The headstone company had told us that the poured the cement slab but hadn’t placed the stone so I was surprised to see the stone in place. I snapped a couple pictures to share with the kids and then head back home as it was getting dark.
Here’s the back….
I like when stones have the name on the back so people can see from both directions when they are looking for a name.
Later in the week Kalissa and Kelli took Carver to the cemetery. Carver has had a terrible time with missing Papa Moo (His name for Kramer). He will get upset over something and he’ll start crying saying “I want Papa Moo.” He’s worst at bedtime. It’s been so hard on Kalissa and Craig. He’ll come running into the house and say, “Where’s Papa Moo?” We decided to go with the “He went to live with Jesus.” He asked and asked and asked until I finally told him “Once you go live with Jesus, you can’t come back here.” I’ve went on to tell him, “Everyone gets a turn to go live with Jesus and it was Grandpa’s turn but not ours yet.” It’s so hard. What can kids understand. For that matter…what do we as adults truly understand.
Kalissa was so relieved that the stone got placed. Now we’re telling him if we miss Papa Moo we can go there to remember him.
To ease things at night I gave him Kramer’s old cell phone. I also gave him a little cross. He sleeps with both of them every night.
On this day, Carver decided to “pick some flowers for Papa”. See the clover in the picture below?
As Kalissa and Kelli were packing up Gannon, Carver quick grabbed the clover he had picked and said, “Me hide them so Papa can’t see them.” Then he put the “flowers” on top of the headstone.
He’s such a jokester. He loved teasing Papa Moo.
It’s still pretty sad for me. I look at the picture and all I see is a boy who in a few years, likely won’t remember his Papa. It’s so sad as Papa was a pretty important person in his life…a good person in his life.
I’m very happy with the stone. We bought a taller one than most. We wanted something a little different and not to have a stone that looked like all the others. Kalissa worked with the company on the design. I really like it. When I see it at the cemetery, it looks really classy….maybe a little too classy for a gruff guy like Kramer was but oh well.
I feel so much better now that the stone is there. I felt a little like we had abandoned him when there was no stone there. The grass had grown and without a stone there, it seemed like it was only grass. This is much better. I hope it can bring some peace to Carver too.