Thankful Thursday: The Stages of Life

I’ve started working on having Thankful Thursday posts…it’s just a random post of things that happened during my week that I am thankful for. It started after I’ve been reading The Frugal Girl blog and she has a feature called Thankful Thursday.  I loved the idea and have been doing it here. Today I’m thankful for the stages in life.

After spending time with the family over the holidays, I got thinking about the stages of life. I went from college student to wife, to mom, a little break, and then grandma. It was crazy. Life was always busy with five kids around the house and then a rush of grandkids.

In that “little break” time, people always said to me, “You’re not a grandma yet. Aren’t your kids old enough?”

Yes, yes my kids were old enough but they chose not to have kids right away. Two of our daughters, Kelli and Kayla dated over five years before they got married. Then they didn’t have kids right away…

I always told people that as much as I hoped to be a grandma someday, I didn’t have children to have grandkids. I had my kids to have my kids. I enjoy and appreciate them just as they are…married or not, grandkids or not. Lately, more than ever, I’ve been appreciating time with Karl.

Our son Karl isn’t married. He lives just a few houses from me (we can’t see each other’s house). On Christmas Eve day Karl and I kept our tradition of making tamales. It was wonderful. Just Karl and I hanging out in the kitchen.

Karl and I had to commemorate the moment by taking this picture. Notice in the photo above, everything evened out. We ran out of masa, meat, and wrappers all exactly equally. The last tamale is in the photo below.

Here they are steaming…

Karl is single…not married and never has been. I’m not sure he will marry. It’s going to have to be the exact right girl to pull him out of bachelorhood because he enjoys his life as is.

I am enjoying his life as is too. I appreciate it when he stops by for supper…plays a couple of games of Patchwork and heads off to his house. It’s a nice quiet visit.

I love days when the grands are all here and the house is chaos, but I love this stage with Karl too. I rarely get to visit with my other adult kids without all the little ones around and miss that. So more than ever, I am thankful for this time with Karl…if the right person comes along for him, that’s okay too…he needs to do whatever makes him happy. For now, I’m appreciating and being thankful that I have this time with Karl.

By the way…it was our best batch of tamales ever!! So good. Good food and a good time together, that’s something to be thankful for!!

15 thoughts on “Thankful Thursday: The Stages of Life”

  1. I’m so happy with my family-two kids and four grandkids. But I miss the one on one with just my kids. I feel like that aspect of parenting is missing!

  2. oh i so get where you are coming from. I had my children and love them. the fact one of them was able to have a couple of children is a bonus and i hope they loving them as well. Yes i love my grandchildren but they are not why their parents were a blessing for me.THANK YOU

  3. I am like you, I never thought about being a grandparent when I had my children. I love my grandchildren, but still like having that one on one with my adult children. I wish I had a “Karl” to make tamales with! I would like to try to make them, but quite an undertaking for me alone.

  4. I understand totally. I love my grandchildren and dote on them, but I miss the time my daughter and I used to spend together. She is a teacher and before she married and had children. She and I travelled together at least once a year. We would go somewhere do some sightseeing and a lot of outlet shopping not anymore.

    1. Teresa from Port Coquitlam, BC

      Maybe when her children are old enough you can. In 2019 my husband , my mom and I went to Europe. It was something she always wanted to do and my dad was never interested. My mom and I travel together to visit my son and his family (her grandchildren and great grand daughter) so maybe you can again one day.

  5. My son is like yours. He is content with his time serving the Lord. If God chooses to give him a mate then he would be fine with that. Otherwise he is happy. He’s the reason we moved from Llano to Midlothian Tx. Our daughter and granddaughters live with us too. And it is nice to have them all around but we do like a little quiet time. Our other daughter lives in Dallas and can’t have children. She just lost her Doxie that was like a child to her. We bought a home with an acre of land and they can put a tiny home on it if they want so all of us can be happy lol.

  6. I’m like you, Jo, and a few others who commented – I had my kids to have my kids, not so I’d get grandkids. I have 3 beautiful daughters, and like you with your Karl, I also enjoy the conversations I have with my grown up girls. In fact, I’ve been really appreciating this more lately. My oldest daughter has 2 beautiful little boys. So far they are the only ones. I love them so much, they bring me a lot of joy, but I also love hanging out with my girls and chatting with them. I’m not sure if my other girls will have children. I’m pretty sure my youngest won’t. But I’m not fussed. It’s their decision and theirs only. If it’s just the 2 boys, fine by me. If there are any more, fine by me!

  7. During my October visit with my daughter (she lives 3 states and 2 flights away from me) I mentioned only one more year and her youngest would be in school so we could go to lunch somewhere other than a drive-thru. I think she was surprised. She used to be a great shopper but now everything is ordered online which seems to be the way of this generation. I remember looking forward to lunch with just my mom and me when my kids were older but by then she was no longer interested in eating out and barely ate anything. My son is in his 30s, single, and still looking for a wife. We sometimes order to-go or go to a restaurant for a birthday but that is all. I’m impressed that Karl stops by as often as he does.

  8. I want grandchildren! I had my kids when I was older, so they are in their 20’s (both engaged) and I’m 65, so time is running out for me. I want those grandchildren!

  9. I am thankful you showed up in my inbox again, Jo! It’s been weeks and I have tried 2-3 things to “get you back,” LOL. Today, there you were – what a sweet surprise. I love my kiddos and love all their spouses and children. But, wow, it is a special treat to get one of your own kiddos to yourself for a bit of quiet, meaningful conversation. Karl (and the other kids, too) is a true blessing.

  10. During my October visit with my daughter (she lives 3 states and 2 flights away from me) I mentioned only one more year and her youngest would be in school so we could go to lunch somewhere other than a drive-thru. I think she was surprised. She used to be a great shopper but now everything is ordered online which seems to be the way of this generation. I remember looking forward to lunch with just my mom and me when my kids were older but by then she was no longer interested in eating out and barely ate anything. My son is in his 30s, single, and still desirous of and looking for a wife. We sometimes order to-go or go to a restaurant for a birthday but that is all. I’m impressed that Karl stops by as often as he does.

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