I’ve been reading the book The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun by Gretchen Rubin. It’s a fun book that talks about being more happy with life. My daughter Kayla suggested the book to me…not that she doesn’t think I’m happy. She just knew it would be a book that I might like.
One of the sections of the book talks about spending out. Secretly I think this very idea is why Kayla suggested the book to me. (If you want to read what the author means about spending out you can read her brief take on it here) In my case it more or less it goes something like this….
I buy new clothes but save them for good. I don’t wear them. I leave them in my closet waiting for the magical “good” day to arrive. It doesn’t…the clothes just stay there. I often wear clothes that “aren’t my favorite” just to keep the new clothes nice. Some people go to a garage sale or thrift store and see clothes with tags on them and wonder why. I don’t. The owner was likely saving them for “good” like I do.
I will buy new dish towels. I have completely ragged ones but will put the new ones in the bottom of pile and only use the ones on top that are really bad…I’m saving the new towels for “good”.
I buy mushrooms thinking I won’t just make plain hamburgers. I’ll make mushroom and Swiss burgers but then won’t make them because Hubby’s fine with plain hamburgers and I’ll save the mushrooms for when Kalissa and Craig come over for supper. Then I typically I go to get the mushrooms out of the back of the refrigerator and they are yucky. I should have just used them! Then I am frustrated with myself. I was saving them for “good”.
I do the same with socks and underwear. I don’t just throw out the old when I buy the new. I always think…ah, I can get a few more wears…and then my undies slide off my bottom because the elastic is shot…I know…too much info. Why do I do this? It’s not like buying a new pack of undies is going to break my bank!?!?!
I used to laugh at my mom because she did the same thing…now look. I’ve become my mother. (Luckily she was a pretty good lady to become in most other aspects).
So I made a new goal. I am “spending out” more often. I am going to use things and not leave them sit in the drawer, refrigerator, or closet. I know I won’t be completely cured but now I am at least recognizing it. Just as proof….I did throw underwear out!! I did go shopping, bought new clothes and have been wearing them!! The other night I made spaghetti and look…I even used the mushrooms.
You know…it feels pretty good.
I knew I kind of did this small scale food and merchandise hoarding but didn’t have a name for it…now I do…hoarding. I now know there’s a something to do about it and that’s spending out. Simple use it and throw the old stuff out!!
One thing I didn’t realize though is that I do this with ideas too. We’ll have a quilt design and we’ll save it in case we want it for a book. I’ll have a cute crafty project for the kiddos and I’ll save it. I’ll have an idea for a blog post..and I’ll save it. My brain sometimes ends up on overload trying to remember all these things. I’ve been spending out in this aspect too. We did a couple projects earlier this week that I had been saving….it was such a relief to not be holding the ideas anymore. I was always afraid I’d forget the idea or I’d write it down and loose the paper I wrote it on.
Honestly, I need to just trust me that I can come up with more ideas!!
You know…When Kayla recommended the book I was a little surprised by the title because I am happy already….Why would she recommend it to me? Now I wonder if it was just her way of telling me to use the things she makes for me. Too often they get set aside because I am keeping them for good too…
I am hoping this old dog can learn a few new tricks because I like this spending out thing. It feels good to not be hoarding my clothes, ideas, underwear…dish towels…Wait. I am still hoarding dish towels. I guess I better go remedy that too…So long dishtowels!!
Tell please…some of you must do this too…RIGHT?? I’m not the only small scale hoarder am I?