Hellos and Goodbyes

One of my happiest days are the days that our son Karl comes home from Texas….one of my saddest and the days he leaves.

Try as I might I always turn into a bit of a blubbering mess when he goes.

He is very adamant when he leaves that “Iowa is home and Texas is just temporary”.  I so hope that is true.

I’m sure many of you understand that it’s so tough to be in this situation….here’s the long list of things I tell myself.

-He’s an adult and has to do what he wants.
-He’s terrible with change and will stay in Texas because it’s easy.
-I wish I had the money to pay off this student loans so he wouldn’t have the higher pay as an excuse to stay there.
-I wish he were in a better position to do what he REALLY wanted to do which isn’t teaching.
-I hope he has patience enough to make it through the school year.
-Please make his car be okay (he got to new one so I worry less now)
-In all your sadness remember to TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM.
-Kalissa and Kelli will likely have their babies when he’s home next.
-Carver, Scotty and Lucy grow so fast.  There’s so much to miss….Like this….

The biggest one…I hope they appreciated having him in Texas as much as we appreciate having him home.

Karl’s such a great guy…things click when he’s home.  He does my post office runs.  He helps clean up the leftovers.  He’s the 4th player for playing cards.  He is so sweet with Carver.  He is a good cook.  He’s totally not demanding or “in my hair”.  He’s the perfect roommate as long he keeps his door closed and I don’t see his messy bedroom.

So it’s missing him time.  I have to wait it out until March.  WOW what a busy March it will be…but if all goes well…a VERY happy one.  I get to welcome Karl home again and we all get to welcome those two new grand babies!!

15 thoughts on “Hellos and Goodbyes”

  1. Sending hugs from here, I send my oldest back to college on Sunday. My heart hurts already, but he has to go to school to get a good job and take care of me when I am old, right? Know that you are not alone and we are lifting you up !

  2. I feel the same about our son, Jo. The way of mother’s, I guess. :-( At least they’re only a phone call away, right?

  3. Nikki DeRamus Moshier

    We don’t have children so I can’t imagine what you are going through. But I remember driving away from my parents to my job and my heart was breaking also. Bless you for sharing and I hope Karl is happy.

  4. So glad you had a great visit with him! Our oldest is in Hawaii with her hubs; might be heading to Japan for a couple of years! Yikes! This mama hen worries too. Prayers for safe travels.

  5. Oh, do I identify with all you listed, what Karl said, etc. I missed out on so many occassions, events, and more because I was the one who left. He will be back, so I’m thrilled for you, Karl and all the family. Happy 2019!

  6. I know what you are feeling. My son is in the Air National Guard and has been deployed to Qatar since the first weekend in November. He missed all the holidays but he will be home the middle of this month. Have a safe trip, Karl!!

  7. I have been following you for many years, and can’t quite remember where I found you on Facebook, or a blog.

    But I think you’re amazing, and blessed, and have a lovely family.
    I wish I had your energy to do all that you do, and make quilts too.

    I think I would have made a good farm wife, but grew up on the outskirts of NYC, that wasn’t to be.
    I would love to have a big old house, and kids, and be part of a quilting group, in a place where there’s space to breathe, and the winter is winter.
    So, I truly enjoy reading about your life while I have my morning coffee, and admire you from a distance.
    I wish all the best to you and your beautiful family.

  8. Yes, I can relate. I put on a happy face, say travel safe comments, bye to the 2 grand babies (toddlers) and see them to the security gate at the airport. Then I manage to get to my car dry eyed, have a good cry, pull myself together and head for home, lonely again.

  9. Both my dons live about 25 miles away from me and when they come here just to sit and talk, I miss them when they go home. I always tell them “I love ❤️ them” and to drive safely. It’s a mother’s thing to love and miss our kids.
    And worry about them
    Prayers for your son’s trip back to Texas .

  10. I had older parents….my Dad was ill when I was in school.. I always cried the first 30 miles after leaving them….

    I so admire what a close family you are..

  11. I know how you feel. We live on the west coast and my son went to live on the east coast for what initially was two years but ended up being nine years. He is now back living close to us and comes for dinner almost every Wednesday on his way to play basketball with friends which is so nice and he really enjoys it also. His current job will be ending in June and it looks like he may be moving out of state again but hopefully closer than the east coast. It is hard but like I always say we raise them to be adults and on their own and then don’t like it so much when they do exactly that. We are fortunate to live in a time when communication is so easy with skype and facetime so even if it is not the same as having them in the room with you it is the next best thing.

  12. I grew up on a farm in North Dakota, the youngest of 5. Only 1 stay in ND, 2 on west coast (CA WA), 1 in Illinois and me in PA. Although we were spread out we all remained close, cheaper once we got cell phones and amazingly all the cousins are also very close. I am the only one of the 5 still living, we are now spread out over 10 states, literally from coast to coast and north (ND) and south (TX). But we always had fun visiting the many different places visiting family.

  13. I have a son in another state and it’s hard. If I think about hugging him I cry. Like now. He had to work and was unable to come home for Christmas. I’m praying life works out for him to come home for a visit soon.

    What does Karl want to do other than teach?

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