Today would be my Mom’s birthday. She died in 1990. It’s so hard to believe that that she’s been gone for so long. I was only 24 when she passed away. She made such an impact on my life.
On Veteran’s Day I showed you a couple of my dad’s pictures from service. A blog reader commented that my Dad was so handsome. Oh my. He was.
Actually my mom was a looker too.
She loved horses and was quite a talent with them.
My parents were an amazing looking couple. In their dating years and early married years, the pictures of them look so glamorous to me. Don’t you think?The picture below was a photo booth photo.
but truth told…this is how I remember my mom.
I was the youngest kid in the family. By the time I really remember my mom well, she was catching gray hair…either that I was giving them to her!
She needed glass but didn’t always wear them. She was plagued with allergies. I’m guessing that she likely would have benefitted from a gluten free diet. At the time, we didn’t know about eating gluten free.
She had allergies and had trouble with cow milk, thus the goats and goat milk. She loved trying new things. She was always experimenting and coming up with things to make with goat milk. She made amazing yogurt that the family talks about to this day.
She could do most anything. No joke. When there was a remodeling project to do. My parents hired a carpenter that worked on his own. Mom worked right alongside with him. She laid all of the carpet and linoleum in the farmhouse. She painted old cabinets to make them look like they had a wood grain. She hung wallpaper and it DID NOT COME DOWN or lift at the seam. She was a talent.
She could sew. She made wonderful life like applique quilts for the grandchildren. She could alter clothes to make them perfect. She was an amazing seamstress. My sister Judy got that from her.
She was a good cook. She made good homemade comfort food that we all loved. Meals were always prompt and delicious.
When I turned 19 and got some of the “teen year rebellion” out of me, she became my best friend. Truly. I wish I had been more mature and treasured her more. I wish I had asked her every question that has ran through my mind since she passed away. I wish we would have had time for her to pass along her many talents to me. Mostly, I just wish she were still here.
Mom would have hated aging though. She would not have liked slowing down. She would have missed the goats and chores. She would have missed all of her projects that aging would have made her set aside. Today she would have been 91.
She died suddenly with no warning. My kids have asked what’s easier- to lose a loved one sudden and unexpected or slow like Kramer. The answer: There is no good way to lose anyone. It stinks either way.
I’m so thankful I had Mom for the time I did. I was so blessed….Yes, she did look pretty glamorous in those pictures but mom’s beauty was way more than skin deep. Mom’s beauty went right to the heart and oh my, 30 years later, I still feel her absence.