Goodbye Old Friend

What a hard weekend.  I’m so thankful there wasn’t a bunch of things I really needed to be at and could just hang with Ruby.  I let the kids all know that Ruby wasn’t well.  After working the day shift on Saturday, Kalissa stopped by to see her with Carver.  We talked with Carver and told him Ruby was really sick.

It was Kalissa’s turn to nurse on her and tell her goodbye.  I had hoped Kalissa and Kelli might see her before I had to put her to sleep.  Both of them were close to Ruby.  You can see in the picture above that Ruby wasn’t herself.  What you can’t see is the constant shaking she was doing.

Sunday was a tough day.  I tried to be hopeful that Ruby would respond to the meds but she really didn’t.  She, for the most part, quit eating and drinking.  The medicine was supposed to make her super thirsty.  She drank way less only taking a couple laps of water.  I figured her body was starting to shut down.

She would only lay unless she absolutely had to go to the bathroom.  Her kennel became her favorite spot.  I think she thought it was safe.  Poor girl.

I loved on her all I could.  I watched hoping I’d see a change….hoping the old spark would come back.  It didn’t.  Kelli came over.  She too could see our old Ruby girl needed us to make the hard decision.I spent most of Saturday and Sunday sitting at the kennel.  I sat there until my back hurt…until my legs went to sleep.  Ruby has been so good to me.  After Kramer passed away she was especially good.  She just seemed to know when I needed some attention.  Oh man.  How hard to let her go.

The two times I took her outside on Sunday, it was a big ordeal.  Then once we got back in, it took her a long time to settle down again.  She would pant and pant.  I don’t know if she was in pain or the excursion of the work of getting outside was too much for her.  She shivered and shivered too-  I imagine she was running a temp.

I messaged our vet and told her nothing had changed. I told her that I had made the decision and couldn’t watch her like this anymore.  Ruby had to be carried and then when I did, she would yelp.  I couldn’t help her anymore than to say yes to the vet and I did.  The vet messaged back that if I wanted, we wouldn’t have to wait until Monday.  She would come in and we could meet at the vet office soon….I messaged the kids and told them.

Kelli was here so we loaded up Georgia.  I held Ruby all the way to the vet office and Kelli drove.

My girl is gone.  We put her to sleep yesterday afternoon.

Kelli and I loved on her all we could and told her that if heaven is like it should be, she’d be going there and she best go find Kramer.

Through tear filled eyes we talked to the vet about what she thought about Ruby…she wondered if Ruby had something bigger going on.  With all of the past problems Ruby has had, she wondered if there was something bigger underlying it all.  She assured us before we put her to sleep that we had done all we could.  The tests were all done- the reasonable options were looked at.  She told us if Ruby was her dog, this is the choice she would have made too.  That made us feel better.

I’m sad…really sad…but I know Ruby wouldn’t want me to be alone.  Ruby was my constant companion and was always so attentive to where I was in the house.  Being we were there, in between crying sniffles, I talked to the vet about another dog.  I asked what she recommended as far as a puppy or older dog in my situation.  Being I operate an in home childcare she said I should be on the look for a puppy.  She thought it best a puppy grow up around children and with many families coming in and out my door so they were used to it.

We asked if she knew of anyone with beagles…she didn’t.  I’ll alway have Ruby in my heart…but I know I’ll want another dog.  The house will be too lonely without a dog.

Oh Rubers…we have so loved you.  You are leaving a hole in my heart…never will there be another dog who was a “regal beagle” like you.  The beagle brigade will miss you.  You were such a giving dog, a real friend, now the other side of the bed will be empty again.  You will be so missed…I told you a million times over the weekend that I loved you and that I so appreciated all you gave to me…I really do.  You did an amazing job getting me through this hard, hard year.  Goodbye old friend-may we meet again.

109 thoughts on “Goodbye Old Friend

  1. Sandy

    My heart aches for your loss. Ruby loved you and trusted you to care for her. You were there for her just as she was there for you. She will always be in your heart. Prayers for all of you.

  2. Candi

    I’m so so sorry for your loss. It hardly seems fair that you have to suffer another loss this year. My heart breaks for you. May you find peace knowing Ruby isn’t suffering anymore.
    Love, hugs and prayers coming your way.

  3. sBetty from Canada

    Sorry you had to put Ruby to sleep. I know it is so hard but remember all the fun times and all the photo shoots she did.
    Betty from Canada

  4. Heidi S

    I’m so sorry your heart hurts. I lost my Buddy this fall and bawled for days. A good dog is an angel at your side. I do believe dogs go to Heaven. Ruby will be at Kramers side already. I actually go farther to believe that dogs demonstrate Gods perfect love. They forgive us immediately. They love us thru thick and thin. I pray one day to be as good a person as my dogs think I am :)

  5. Jean Fisher

    I wish I had words to say to ease your heartache, but unfortunately, I do not. Ruby needed you to make the difficult decision. Ruby loved you as much, if not more, than you did her. My whole heart breaks for you, dear Jo.

  6. Mary

    My heart is breaking for you! So hard to loose such special pets. She and Kramer will have each other in Heaven and be ready to greet you when it is your turn to join them.

  7. Donna

    I’m so sorry my friend. It is so difficult to do this, especially around Christmas. Prayers for you and the family.
    Love and prayers

  8. Valerie

    I’m so sorry about Ruby. So tough to let them go. She helped you through your hardest times, and you helped her through hers. I know she’ll see Kramer at the Rainbow Bridge. My best to you.

  9. Jill Klop

    Oh Jo! When I read the other post, I kinda figured this was coming. I am so sorry! I cried with and for you. I hope you can find a beagle puppy soon. I’ve been where you are and I know that having another dog to love helps ease the pain some. I wish I had better words for you. I’m just so sorry.

  10. Wanda

    What a beautiful, sincere post. Tears for you, Ruby, and for the puppers we had to help to the Rainbow Bridge.

  11. Karen H

    I am so sorry to hear this. You have had a rough year. I had a similar year in 2015, losing my husband in February, and finding it necessary to put our dog to sleep in July. Hugs to you.

  12. Christine

    Oh Jo, you have our sympathy. Your vet sounds amazing. The compassion that was shown to you is wonderful. Blessings and hugs to you and youe family during this difficult time.

  13. Lori

    Heartfelt sympathies extended to you. Fur babies are special. Hugs & prayers sent to you and all your dear family.

  14. Stacie

    I am so, so sorry Jo. Pets are such a huge part of our families there is no denying it. Such a hard loss. Prayers to you are and your family.

  15. Judy in MO

    So sorry you are dealing with this at this time of year and so soon after losing Kramer. My heart is hurting for you.

  16. Julie Letvin

    Jo, I am so very sorry to hear about Ruby. It’s extremely difficult to lose a constant companion that has been with you through all of the good times and the bad. I hope that 2020 brings you a much better year.

  17. Rachel Summy

    So sorry Jo….once again you have to say your goodbyes. Hugs to you all.
    We too lost a beagle we loved long ago….they’re GREAT dogs!

  18. Kate

    So sorry for this loss. My daughter just went through this too and I know it hurts. We can tell she (Ruby) had a good life with you and you gave her much love as you do your whole family. In spite of this, have a Merry Christmas.

  19. Robby

    Oh my, it’s so hard to lose our fur family. Ruby loved and trusted you through so much, and you returned those right to the end. I think a puppy will come along that’s just right. The holidays is a difficult time for a new puppy to settle in, but the right time will come

  20. Barbara

    I am so sorry that Ruby is gone. She was a wonderful dog. She was so good with the kids, and she always sat so nicely on your finished quilts. You were a good dog mom to her.

  21. Hedy

    It’s one if the hardest decisions to make but we do it because it’s the best for our pets. So sorry about Ruby. I have a beagle named Ruby too, she’s just 2 years old. I recommend another beagle for you! Go ahead and grieve for her, she was a winner.

  22. Cindy F

    I am so sorry Jo that you had to make this decision. My heart breaks for you and everyone. I know another dog never replaces the one lost but I hope you are able to find a beagle puppy soon to help ease the hurt in your heart.

  23. Susan V

    Sending you and your family my deepest condolences because I know that this little girl was a valued member of your family. Maybe you could foster a shelter dog for a while to keep each other company.

  24. Debbie B

    I’m so sorry to hear this, Jo! Poor Ruby. She was such a wonderful companion for you and the whole family. Hugs to you and I hope you find a new little wet nosed friend soon.

  25. suzanne

    So sorry Jo. Its never and easy decision. You did the right thing. The Lord will show you the right pup when it comes along.

  26. Donna O

    Sorry for your loss. It is hard to watch an animal suffer and you did the right thing. We have had to put two of our dogs down in the past and it broke my heart each time but we knew not to let them linger in pain.

  27. Ellie

    Oh Jo I’m so sorry you had to make this decision but it was the right one .Ruby has loved you and now it was time for your final act of love for her . I’ve had to make ‘this same decision on three occasions and it doesn’t get any easier. She is with Kramer and they will happily greet you when it’s time. Hugs and prayers for you

  28. Patricia Labosky

    I’m so sorry to see this. We love our fur babies, but this is something we can do for them when they are near the end. I’m sure she knew you loved her. You’ve had an awful 2019, sending positive thoughts your way for a happier and healthier 2020.

  29. Laura

    I’m so sorry to hear about Ruby. She was suffering, so you made the only humane decision.

    We put our beagle down about 4 years ago, and I know I’ll have to do the same for our 17 year old dog soon. It is always hard, but it sometimes it is the right thing to do.

    Sending hugs! I know the perfect puppy is out there for you.

  30. Peggy

    So sorry Jo.. Remember – “Its better to end their life a week to early than have them suffer one more day”
    (Dr Sandi Sawchuk, vet with UW-Madison vet school)

  31. Andi

    Hi Jo,
    I am sad for you. Our dogs are such a comfort, an unbiased, loving, constant friend. So sorry this has come to you on top of losing Kramer this year. Am so sorry! Wishing I could give you a big hug.

  32. Gloria

    RIP Ruby. Thank you for being an important part in Jo’s life and blog. I will miss seeing a picture or two of you. Jo and family, I am so sorry for your loss of Ruby. You made the right decision and Ruby is now pain free as she looks for Kramer. Sending big hugs to all of you.

  33. Norma

    I’m sorry to hear that your little companion was so sick. Thankful you could love on her over the weekend. Our family has had five beagles over the years. They’re such complainants little dogs. Yesterday my husband showed me an ad on Craig’s list for be able puppies and said “wouldn’t this be fun?” ( our granddaughters live in the city and cannot have a dog but they’re coming for Christmas) . Anyway we passed by the ad. I’m in west central Wisconsin. My husband didn’t remember where the puppies were(he thought they were north of us). If he finds them again we can let you know. Wishing you Christmas blessings.

  34. Sheila

    Sending love and prayers, Jo. Also prayers that you find a new puppy that is just right for you at this time in your life.

  35. Norma

    Oh that auto correct!! I couldn’t let that pass. They are companionable dogs. And I understand the recommendation of a puppy to grow up in your childcare household.

  36. Mary Jo B.

    So sorry Jo for the loss of your beloved Ruby. I will miss her posing on the quilts you make.
    I so looked forward to those pictures, and Ruby looked so happy – I am sure she was looking forward to her treat. Sending you a virtual hug. Mary Jo

  37. Stearns Carol

    I have tears in my eyes for you. That is the hardest thing in the world. So sad for you. Its so hard when you walk in the door and they aren’t there to greet you. Ruby and Kramer and Jody are together now.

  38. Kathy E.

    My heart breaks for you! Ruby was a blessing in so many ways and you gave you the very best life she could’ve ever dreamed possible! She is now running the fields of glory with Kramer right behind her! That is such a sweet thought to keep in mind. When you’re ready, bring that new puppy into your household and heart. Nothing will replace Ruby, but there is always room in your heart for another dog to love!
    Merry Christmas to you and know that you have more than one angel looking over you!

  39. Elaine

    Jo, I am so very sorry for your loss. I know how difficult it is to let go. Know that you made the right decision and that Ruby is now happy and free of pain in heaven. Hugs to you and your family.

  40. Ellen Foley

    Oh, my breaking heart. After all you’ve been through, I can’t even imagine! We lost our Beagle, Bugger, a year ago. There is just something about a Beagle. How I miss him. I am so sorry you have lost Ruby, too. I hope you find a lovely little dog to bring new joy to you and your family!

  41. Gayle Shumaker

    Jo, I cried for and with you over the difficult decision you had to make yesterday. Your family like mine loves and cares for our pets as family members so it hurts so much to lose them. The greatest act of love we can give them is the decision that it is their time to cross the rainbow bridge. Hugs

  42. Lorraine

    My deepest sympathy, Jo. Ruby was so fortunate to have you and your family. You have had a tough year. Hugs and prayers of peace to you.

  43. Sandi

    Jo, I am so sorry for your loss. That is such a hard decision to make. Pets are such a huge part of a family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  44. Judy

    I am so sorry that Ruby was so sick. You did the right thing rather than let her suffer. I hope you find a puppy soon for a campanion. Now she will be with Kramer.

  45. Melonie Unger

    Sending you healing prayers and love, Jo. There’s nothing like a beagle! They are so human. I always loved seeing your pictures of Ruby (that was my Mom’s best friend’s name) and I’ve always grown up with beagles. We lost our beagle, Georgia Beth, 3 years ago. There will never be another Ruby, but your new puppy will create a new, endless loving relationship for you.

  46. Frances Whited

    Ruby will be waiting for you at the Rainbow bridge–this is where all pain and suffering is forgotten and she will play and frisk with all the pets that have gone before us–she wil probably find my kitties there and play with them.My heart goes out to you.

  47. Judy Dobbins

    You made the only decision you could to say goodbye to a faithful friend. Condolences to your entire family.

  48. SusanfromKentucky

    My heart is breaking for you. I cried reading this post. I know how close you and Ruby were. You can tell what a sweet girl she was.
    Sending hugs and prayers your way!

  49. Wendy T.

    I am very sorry to hear about Ruby. It is so, so hard to lose the ones we become so close to and love so much. They are such loyal friends and you are right – the house is much too quiet when they are no longer there. Ruby was a very beautiful and sweet looking dog.

  50. Janet R

    I’m sitting here crying and my heart is aching for you. Our pets know us so well and are such comfort when we need them. Ruby, you will be missed.

  51. Diana Rose

    Typing thru tears…So so sorry for your loss, what a great dog she was. One of ours appears to be slowing down a lot, can’t even think about it now. We’ve lost 6 dogs over our life together (we had 4 at one time) and each one was as painful at the first. Blessings to you and your wonderful family.

  52. Linda in NE

    So sorry you had to let your Ruby go. Making the decision was hard but it was the right one. She’s no longer sick or in pain. You gave her a wonderful life & did all you could for her.

  53. Joanne Eggleston

    So so sorry to hear this Jo. Am in tears reading your post but it sounds like this was the right decision. It’s so hard to see them suffering.

  54. Annette Michehl

    It’s truly hard to loose our pets, they are family . Praying you are comforted my your memories.
    My yorkie’s name is Ruby also!
    Annette M.

  55. Susan

    I am so sorry for your loss of Ruby. I know the heartbreak and the shed tears making this kind of decision and actually doing it. Ruby has crossed the rainbow bridge. My uncle had beagles. I am sure Ruby will find them to play with on the other side.

  56. Sally Safranski

    “What we have once enjoyed 
we can never lose; 
All that we love deeply
 becomes a part of us.
” – Helen Keller

  57. Ilona

    I cried as I read your post. I have put so many wonderful animal friends down over the years and it never gets easy. But, what would I do without my best friends? Can’t ever even imagine living without my constant companions. We just have to love them and know that we’ll see them again at the Rainbow Bridge!

  58. Susan the Farm Quilter

    More paw prints kept safely in your heart, but another hole left behind. I am so very sorry, Jo. Ruby will always be loved, by you, your family, your “kiddos” and your readers. She has been a part of our world as well and we will miss her sweet posing with every quilt. It’s hard to type through tears, as you well know. Hugs.

  59. Karin Callander

    So heartbreaking, especially after all you’ve already been through. She knows she was loved though, and you enriched her life, just as she did yours. She just had to go early to keep an eye on Kramer. Much love to you all.

  60. Barb

    May the day come soon when memories of her bring you smiles instead of tears. Doing the right thing for them is unfortunately the hardest thing for us. Peace and hugs to you.

  61. Evie H

    Oh, boy, I have tears and feeling so very sad. Thank you for sharing Ruby’s and your story. I know the heartbreak attendant to having to say goodbye to our furry friends. Hugs to all.

  62. Sandra Davidson

    Oh Jo I was so sad to read about Ruby I have lost many cats and one dog in my lifetime and I know how hard it is to put them to sleep when you love them so much yet you don’t want them to suffer. You have had such a difficult year and I pray that 2020 is better. Hugs and blessings Sandra

  63. Ginny A

    I am writing through tears. I hurt for you. You showed your great love for her one last time in easing her on her way over the Rainbow Bridge and that says so much. So sorry for this terrible second loss of the year. Prayers for you and your family.

  64. Louise

    My deepest condolences on the loss of your dear, sweet Ruby. You gave her the best life a good dog could ever want. May she rest in peace.

  65. Linda L

    It sounds like she had a wonderful life with you. I’m so sad you had to do this with your husbands passing being so recent. I couldn’t be without a dog either so I’m glad you are thinking about another. There’s always room in our heart for one more.

  66. Carmen Montmarquet

    So very sorry Jo, terribly unfair for this to happen to you and your family especially at Christmas! You did the right thing and Ruby is no longer suffering. Stay strong and know you have your family and friends to help you through this very sad time! Hugs to you and your family!

  67. Felicia Hamlin

    My condolences, Jo, to you and your family. Sometimes life can be terribly unfair, however, you did the one thing that would set her free from her pain. But it hurts us more than words can say. I started to follow your blog because of Ruby, I did enjoy seeing her posing on the quilts. As you know, we have a beagle and she is sick, although it seems that she is improving. Take care of yourself and I hope you can find another little beagle to keep you company. Hugs.

  68. Judy

    I am so sorry that you had to make that kind of decision. It has been a very hard year for you and I know how hard it is to lose an animal that you love. The memories of her you will always have and that will help you get through this.

  69. Emily

    Jo, so sad to hear about Ruby. I know it was hard to make the decision to let her go. I am thankful your family is there with you. I hope you find a puppy soon.
    My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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