I just wanted to let people know that I have a blog but I also have a life. I have a full and vibrant life beyond the time I spent at the computer with the blog. I spend a couple of hours a day most days at the computer, dealing with stuff that is blog related. I write posts. I answer emails. I write patterns. I respond and read comments. I deal with behind the scenes things. I now added Youtube to the mix so there is video editing and pattern designing too. Several times a week that couple of hours turn into five hours as projects take the time or I had family here and wasn’t able to put the full amount of time in the day before. Taking photos and editing them takes time. Organizing mail takes time. I never realized how much time it all takes.
Other bloggers say to me all the time, how do you write so often? They say things like “I’m lucky if I can blog twice a week.” The answer is, I’m willing to give up the time to write more.
BUT: I am a human and appreciate downtime. I have a life beyond what blog readers see.
So…once a week or so, I step away from the computer…usually on a weekend day, and I ignore the blog except to do the bare minimum. I check if there is an urgent email. I check to make sure the blog posted correctly….I write one blog post. Then I walk away and have a life.
I have a rich life that is filled with so many things that I love…
Rosie my beagle
It’s also filled with responsibilities
my personal health
I’ve learned to put my phone down. I’ve learned to step away from the computer and blog and have my own life away from it. I want to enjoy what I’m doing. I want to enjoy my life. I don’t want to run and jump every time I hear a ping from a device.
I’m telling you all this as last week on Saturday, I had one of my minimal days as far as working on the blog goes. Lucy and Scotty were here. Lucy and Scotty were both not feeling well. I was on alert with the puke bucket and once they napped, I ran around the house trying to get their laundry washed and their things packed up as Karl was taking them home Saturday late afternoon.
Then Saturday night I took the time and made myself a decent supper. Lucy and Scotty are picky eaters so I let them pick the menus for the four days they were here. We had a lot of chicken nuggets, hotdogs, and the like. I took time to make myself sweet corn and a pork chop.
After I was done with that, I tidied up the house and started pulling and washing all of the laundry. Remember the kids had temps and Scotty was puking? I had 4 loads of laundry to do from just that. Then I cleaned and resorted toys.
At 8pm I decided whatever was left to do, it would have to wait until the next day. I was going to cross stitch for the rest of the evening. That is what I did.
So Sunday rolled around. I slept in until 7:30am. I had been up with the kids early the last four days and Lucy had been awake and cried in the overnight of Friday into Saturday and I had little sleep.
I got up and made breakfast. I finished cleaning up the house and folding laundry. I unloaded the dishwasher and then I decided I would finish the spot I was cross-stitching and then in the afternoon and tend the blog. I did just that….
Imagine my surprise when I opened the comment section of the blog and read this:
Carol L wrote this:
“Jo, I’m really disappointed to see that you’ve chosen to not publish my comment, which I posted here early today. I realize it’s your blog, but I wasn’t expecting censorship for my opinion & suggestion. You won’t miss me as a follower, I’m sure, but I will be unfollowing this blog.”
WHAT?? What was going on? I don’t censor??
So this lead me down a chase reading through comments trying to find out what was going on. I didn’t understand what had happened.
Well after some investigation, I realized that Carol was not a fan of the Sewpads. Apparently, on Saturday morning while I was hanging with my grandkids Carol L had wrote:
“I’ve had these pads in my cars for quite a few years, and also have 1 at my computer desk, and another for sewing. I hate to denigrate a small business, but $90??? Really? That’s a ripoff. Sorry to say that, but so many quilting-related items are simply overpriced, to market to a specific market. If you want to save yourself some money, google ‘gel seat cushion’. You’ll find quite a few, with or without a lower spine notch, for around $40.”
The comment hadn’t gone through. The blog held the comment as it always does with people who don’t regularly comment. I know this is frustrating for some people but it is a necessity. Every blogger will tell you that it is necessary for the first few comments anyone leaves to be censored.
The “holding of comments” prevents all of the trollers and creepos from getting their message about sexually explicate things from going into the comments. You would not believe the amount the grossness of comments that are left that I wade through and delete. Carol L’s comment, being she hasn’t commented regularly, was held for review along with the dirty nasty comments and comments from other new commenters.
The reason that Carol L’s comment was held had absolutely nothing to do with whether I agreed with it or not. It had to do with that she never posted to the blog so the comment was held by the blog program.
So what do I think of the comments Carol L left?
-I am not going to give up my personal time to run to the computer every time it dings so I can check to see if there is a comment waiting for me to approve. I am not going to give up weekend time to make sure that comments from people can be allowed to go through whether I agree with the comments or not. My family comes first. My life comes first.
-I do not believe in censorship. It would be nice if people would be better at censoring themselves but what people write and how they write it is their personal choice and a reflection of themselves.
-One thing I learned with Covid-19. I am buying American whenever I can readily find a product, even if there is a cost difference. I want to support American workers. I want to support American businesses. I want jobs in our country. I don’t want to depend so deeply on foreign countries.
I would like to make this final note so this is completely clear to anyone who leaves a comment on the blog:
If you leave a comment on the blog and you are a regular commenter, your comment will go through automatically. The blog program will not hold your comment.
If you do not regularly comment on the blog, your comment will be held for review to make sure you are a trusted commenter and won’t be posting inappropriate links and disgusting comments. Being I have a life and a family, it might take a day or two or five for me to read the comment, determine if the comment is not sexually explicit, and approve it.
I allow all comments and do not censor them even if I don’t agree with them and even if I am relatively sure the readers of the blog will blast the person’s comment.
Carol L is totally allowed her opinion. We all are. Freedom of speech, after all, is the American way…as is spending our money however we want and where ever we please.
You can find the SewPad post is HERE. Gary was great and extended the free shipping through the end of the month.
Thank you to the majority of you who are patient with me and realize I do have a life beyond the 10 minute blubs you see in the morning and the evening.