The weather here in NE Iowa has not been conducive to doctor appointments that are 2 hours away…but somehow we have to make them work. As they scheduled the last appointments we were told “the surgeon sees new patients on Thursdays”. I don’t know for positive but it leads me to believe that if were unable to get to the appointment we had, we’d have to wait another week. UGH. No fun. So even though an ice storm was predicted, we had to get there.
That left us trying to beat the storm. To do that, we needed to leave by 4pm on Wednesday so another night in the hotel….and again, I had to ask my childcare parents to make other arrangements. The parents have been EXCELLENT through all of this and I SO-SO appreciate how kind they have been. I’m terrible about asking for favors and feel terrible when I do….but they were troopers and picked up the kiddos early so we could take off.
We were expecting ice from .1 to .2 tenths of an inch. No fun for sure. So off we went. We stopped in Caledonia (About 3/4 of the way there) for gas, grabbed a drink and were back on the road and WHAM! Freezing rain. This was the windshield.
We crawled our way to Lacrosse. We were so thankful we made it. The hotel was excellent as always. Because of the storm they had one room left….the family suite. It was WONDERFUL.
The next day our first stop of appointments was a breathing test. It’s important to try to figure out what capacity his lungs are breathing at now to determine how much he can get by with losing. When we came the plan was to meet with the surgeon and hopefully schedule surgery.
Well it didn’t quite happen like that….It turns out he needs another biopsy. The lymph nodes along his trachea need to be checked out. So next week we are back to Lacrosse- This time we’ll be there Tuesday and Wednesday. (Of course another snow event is planned for Monday night into Tuesday so we’ll see, we might have to leave early again)
If the biopsy comes back clean then surgery is scheduled for the 19th. If it is not clear, he goes back to discuss chemo and radiation.
The appointment was the “hard reality” appointment. We learned all sorts of things like your lungs consist of 5 lobes. He has to have 2 removed….possibly the entire right side. Of the people who have this done 30% of them end up with a pacemaker. Of people who have the two lobes removed 10% of them end up with a pacemaker. 2% of people who have surgery have a stroke. 1-2% die on the operating table. More and more and more statistics and none of them were the “and they lived happily ever after” statistics. UGH….WAY TO MANY STATISTICS. Way too much negativity.
Then our drive home was icky….both of us were a little down trodden and the roads were terrible. It’s always hard getting out of an appointment. We learn the news and then we have to tell the kids, the childcare parents, Hubby’s boss and anyone else who is directly related to the day’s news. Each time we tell, we relive it again. That’s great when it’s good news, but a little stinky when it’s a day when we get the “hard talk”.
It was a harder day but we are looking at the positive. The tumor was found. The doctors are still optimistic that it can be cured. We have Hubby with us. We are strong fighters.
To make us feel even better, we came home to find some wonderful things….
Linda Z left this message in the comment section:
“So sorry to hear about Roger’s diagnosis. I understand every feeling you are going through. My husband was diagnosed with squamous cell lung cancer six years ago. He was fortunate in a way since they were able to remove the entire left lung. The chemo treatment was for six months. Good days and rough ones. I have to say he never got sick but suffered fatigue and loss of appetite. Always started 5 days after the treatment. There have been changes and options since his diagnosis. He had some other up and downs but has been to hold down a part time job during it all. He is 75 and doing well. You always hold your breath until that next scan. Thoughts and prayers are with you.”
Others of you have sent messages…they are so meaningful to us both. Hubby has read through them a couple times. THANKS!!
These are EXACTLY what I needed to hear. EXACTLY.
Then while we were unloading the pickup, the neighbor came and blew out our sidewalks. AH…PERFECT timing. Thanks Justin!!
I walked out to get the mail and cards from family and friends. Oh my…this is all exactly what we needed.
Thank you. Thank you.
So we’re back to the waiting game. Biopsy next week…results sometime after and prayers that the surgery on the 19th will be a go!!