I recently had two comments from blog readers that I am sharing today…On is from Mary…the other from someone who was mean-spirited. After careful consideration, I am writing about those comments today. Please note, I very much appreciated Mary’s comments.
“Jo, I’ve never seen you give instructions on how to iron your finished cross stitch projects. I lay my piece face down on a terry cloth towel and cover it with a damp linen towel. Press on the linen towel side. It steams the piece and the stitches stand out because they go into the thickness of the terry towel and they don’t get flattened. They come out great.”
(What I write next is not in any way directed at Mary or her comment. I appreciate her question so much and it has given me a way to write about some of the frustrations of being a blogger. I thank her for her comment that I hope will help us all see that that there are many acceptable ways)
Great question and Mary…I’ll likely never answer your question here on the blog. There seem to be a few things that I’ve learned to keep my opinion to myself. How to iron cross stitch pieces is one of them.
Seriously, if I would openly admit that I spray the piece with spray starch and then just iron it on the front side, I would have a whole host of people jump on me and tell me that I’m doing it wrong.
I would hear all about how I’m not leaving the stitches fluffy. I would be told that I’m ruining my piece. I would have people agast that the threads might run.
Oh, my word…you all have no idea what it’s like for bloggers if they “open a can of worms”.
There are some things, I just try to avoid.
-how much machine quilting they like or don’t like
-how many WIPS (works in progress) are acceptable
-what dog behavior is acceptable
-how often to replace things
-using sheets as backings for quilts
Sadly the comments and emails people leave aren’t always phrased in a friendly manner either and most of the really nasty ones come in emails. Words like “I can’t believe you would do that” have come my way before.
On second thought…I am going to tell you how I iron my cross stitch pieces.
I …spray them with starch.
I lay them on my wool mat right side up.
I iron right over the stitches.
I don’t care one single bit if my stitches are flattened. I actually like them that way. I like for the stitches to feel like they are flat and part of the fabric. I like them to look and feel absorbed.
I’m super lazy. I want things done quickly. I don’t want to go find the towel. It’s so much quicker to just iron it. Being I don’t care that the stitches are flat, that’s what I do. I spray it with starch (yes I know it might compromise the longevity of the archival process…but I’m lazy and don’t care) and iron it with the linen setting on my iron.
I know this method is not popular with many…and even likely unpopular with most. That’s totally okay. I don’t mind one bit that people have methods or opinions that are different than mine. It’s totally okay with me. Just don’t write me a nasty note about it. I’m 56 years old and can make a decision about ironing all on my own.
I am not saying either way is better or worse. I’m not on a campaign trail trying to convince anyone my way is better…because, truthfully, it probably isn’t. But, it’s my piece and I don’t care.
So…that’s why I don’t blog about how I press things.
-I know my method isn’t accepted by most
-I know it likely isn’t long-term best down the road
The main reason I don’t blog about how I press linen…I don’t want to hear the feedback and people telling me I’m doing it wrong. I’ve already thought it through and come to the decision that I don’t care and am willing to take the risks. I don’t need someone to tell me how to “do it right”.
Please know that whenever I do a tutorial or write anything, I am not endorsing that as the only way to do something. In the past, I have written about how I sort my fabric as “white-based” or “cream-based”. You can find those posts HERE and HERE and HERE. In those posts, I’m only telling you what I do. I am not and never will tell you that whatever you do is wrong.
I’m totally on the team of “you do you”.
At least I’m on the “you do you bandwagon” until things become hurtful.
Typically I don’t censor comments left here on the blog. YES, I delete the spam comments but that’s it. I do believe in freedom of speech…but I recently had a very nasty comment left here that would have been hurtful to many and I took my right as the owner of the blog and deleted this hurtful, inappropriate comment.
The commenter wrote that she wasn’t impressed with any of the quilts she saw on the blog and she hand quilted everything because she was a purist. Keep in mind, that this is the very-very toned-down version. What she wrote was actually mean…
I try to give people the benefit of the doubt when they leave comments like this. I try to be understanding that they are likely very sad in their own life. I try to reason that maybe they have something medical that affects them but at some point…No. I’m not leaving mean hurtful statements in the comment section that would hurt many and criticize the work they are doing.
I ended up writing to the lady who left the comment and I told her: “There are no purists here”.
It’s a very real thing that bloggers have become more and more frustrated with the nasty comments blog readers leave. Many of us who are often appreciated for being open with our lives are starting to feel like we might not want the door quite so open. After all, who wants to deal with “purists”…not me.
I’m not going to let the purist get me. Instead, I am going to praise Mary for opening a discussion on the ways of ironing cross-stitch pieces. Many thanks to Mary who outlined a great way to iron your cross stitch pieces in her comment at the beginning of this post. If you are ironing your pieces what Mary suggested is probably the most common and accepted way to iron cross stitch pieces. I also want to thank her for the timing of her comment. It gave me a great segway into being able to write about my frustrations with the “purist” commenter and it gave me a way to tell you about how I iron my pieces as normally, I wouldn’t have “opened that can of worms”.
Feel free to chime in and tell us what method you use to iron your pieces.
Also, please note my blog is and always will be a “you-do-you” community and there truly are no purists here.