I’ve been doing a big debate lately. It’s been a hard debate for me too. Where do I end what I share? How much is too much to share and how much is not enough to share?
Periodically I get people who send me a friend request on Facebook. Often it’s after I share something on line or have something published.
I don’t know these people. They saw a quilt I posted on a Facebook group and want to connect with like people so they friend me. Some might be blog readers but I don’t know the person personally. That has left me not “friending” them and ignoring the request. For those of you who don’t have Facebook let me explain a bit. Someone sends an invitation to you because they want to friends with you. You have the option to friend them or to not friend them or to ignore the request. I have ignored these.
Well since the quilting retreat I have gotten MANY new friend requests. Most of them are from people who attended the retreat. If you sent a friend request, please don’t feel offended that I didn’t accept. I’ve met these people and I really wouldn’t mind being friends with them…and here’s where the debate comes in. If I friend someone, they end up with the ability to see and learn a lot more about my family….about my other personal friends…about my likes and dislikes of companies…of politics….of everything. They can know if a President Trump things comes up on Facebook and if I liked it or didn’t like it. They know if I wrote a comment on my cousin Theresa’s wall. They can see if I wrote a sympathy note to my friend on the passing of her father. They can see if I wrote on the wall of one of my childcare kids or pasted pictures of my childcare kids.
Here’s an example. The other day Kalissa called me and asked me if Kelli was pregnant. I said- if she is, she didn’t tell me, why?- Well it showed up in Kalissa’s newsfeed on Facebook that Kelli “liked” Clear Blue Pregnancy Tests on Facebook so Kalissa jumped to conclusions that Kelli must be pregnant….(she’s not as far as I know)…BUT can you see how having friends on Facebook really opens up to people knowing a whole lot more about me…about my family..about my childcare families?
I am friend on Facebook with a few people who I originally met through the blog like Connie. Connie has been to my house. We have met in Rochester and went for lunch. I have met part of Connie’s family. Connie has now met all of my immediate family. Hubby has cooked for her. I know Connie on a personal level. My kids know Connie too. I feel comfortable with Connie knowing anything about me and my family…even my extended family. I’m comfortable with Connie seeing the remarks my kids write on my wall. Connie has met most of my childcare kids. I’m okay opening up the next level.
I’m not there with others yet. It doesn’t mean I won’t be. It means that right now I still feel the need to keep the people around me close. I don’t want to expose my childcare kids anymore than I already do. I don’t want to expose my political or religious beliefs. I don’t want my new baby great nieces picture to show up on the Facebook feed of people who are acquaintances of mine.
If you sent a friend request, please don’t feel offended that I didn’t accept. It’s not that I don’t want to share my life with you…I just want my friends and family to not end up on your Facebook feed. I choose to be in the spotlight and open up my life via the blog. They did not. I feel it’s the best way I can respect their relationship with me.
I know a lot of other bloggers allow people who are readers to be their personal Facebook friends. I’m so glad they do and feel comfortable with doing that. Everyone really has their own definition of privacy and it’s okay if they all are different. I think I may be a little more over protective because I have the childcare kiddos.
The good news, we have a Facebook page for Jo’s Country Junction. You can find it right here. If you like and follow that page, all of the blog posts that I write will automatically show up there. Occasionally I write more there too. You can also follow me on Instagram. There I do add more day to day things… you can find me at jo_joscountryjunction – follow Kelli too at kelli_joscountryjunction. Personal things are there but you don’t end up seeing everything of personal friends and family. I actually like Instagram a lot!!
I hope everyone understands…