As many of you know, I get mail from blog readers all of the time. Some packages have things that are meant purely for me to pass on. Most packages come with a note that says, “Keep what you want and pass the rest on”. A few packages are specifically for me.
I love packages that come specifically for me but they also make me really nervous. I feel like I am duty-bound to have to keep or make whatever the item is…and sometimes time, life, style, or circumstances just don’t push me to the project. It’s a heavy burden to make, finish or do the projects that are sent to me and it makes me feel really guilty about them.
Here’s an example. I very kind blog reader sent me this cross stitch chart. I just love it.
I almost started stitching this but then saw it stitched up as you see in the picture below. WHAT?? I love this. So different from the cover photo above. The original pattern calls for two colors but whoever stitched this obviously used more than two. When I stitch it, I want to stitch it like the picture below. So now, the project has sat because I want to find the colors the person below used. I have hunted for a conversion chart but to date, I haven’t found one.
I feel bad because a thoughtful person gifted this to me with the intention that I would stitch it. I really think I will but I need time to figure out how to do it in a way I will love…and like you all, I’m human and it’s much easier to grab something prepackaged and kitted rather than to figure out something harder. I still hope to make it one day!
Another blog reader gifted me… one or two of these cross stitch charts. At the time I was head over heels for them. I was stitching stuff that was totally this style and I was thrilled to get the charts. I got the January one stitched and about then, my style kind of changed. I went to stitching more samplers and more primitive looking stuff…so I haven’t finished stitching this series.
These are stitched on larger count linen with two threads of floss. That’s not my favorite anymore. I like one strand of floss on 40 count….so these have languished.
I still think they are cute and I wouldn’t be surprised if I someday stitch one or two picking my favorites of the bunch like the September chickens. I love that one!! I love the April carrots too.
Yet I feel bad because someone gifted these to me. I still enjoy them even though I haven’t stitched them. I pull out the patterns. I look at the sizes. I dream about finishing them but am stuck on how to stitch them in my currently preference with only one strand of floss.
Other things have been gifted to me too. Seriously…lots of stuff. Truth be told, more stuff than I can likely ever finish. There are only so many hours in the day and as much as I love the gifts…not everything is in my style, or comfort zone or desire…and I have my own agenda of things I have to finish or work on.
I got a package from a blog reader in 2021 with a project that she was sure I would love. I really thought they were cute. She cross stitched all of these cute little beagle cross stitch dogs. She told she wanted me to make a beagle quilt for Georgia with them.
They are SO CUTE and it was so thoughful that she stitch these… but I was and still am super nervous in using them in a quilt. I worried about the stitching staying in place. I’m worried about putting interfacing in the backing on them and how that will work with my longarm. I’m nervous about Georgie staining the white Aida and not being able to get it clean but mostly I’m worried that I’ll go through all the work to make the quilt and Georgie won’t like it.
Georgie is three. She isn’t into dogs anymore. She is head over heels knee deep into horses and unicorns. Everything is horses and unicorns. She’s at the age she throws fits about things that aren’t just so. So much so that she won’t wear a horse shirt if the horses eyes are closed. That’s just how picky she is.
Everytime she puts clothes on, typically one of the pieces of clothing has a horse on it and if it doesn’t she’s carrying her horse backpack that is full of horses and unicorns…(She calls them coon-i-corns)
I know Georgie and she isn’t going to be happy with a beagle quilt at this point in her life. I don’t want to put my time into something that I feel unsure about doing that I don’t think Georgia will want….it’s not horses. It’s not unicorns. Dogs were so a year ago in her little life.
Imagine how sick I felt when I got a note from the maker of the beagle cross stitch pieces…
She was wondering why I hadn’t done anything with the pieces yet. She said she sees me accomplishing so many things and can’t understand why I haven’t done anything with the beagles cross stitch pieces.
I totally understand. She put a lot of work into the pieces. She gave the pieces with the expectation, on her part, that her desired outcome, a quilt for Georgie, would happen with the pieces.
I feel bad about it, but at this point and time, I will not be making a quilt with the beagle pieces. I talked to Kelli about it and both of us agree that Georgie won’t be excited about it.
Because of all of this, I feel it’s necessary for me to make a policy on my recieving anything sent to me. It goes as follows…
“I am blown away time and again by the generosity of readers, but I cannot accept items, even gifts, with strings attached. Anything sent to me is under my own discretion as to what will be, if anything, done with the items unless they are exclusive marked for charity quilting.
I cannot accept products for promotion with the expectation of a positive review, or a mention at all. I will only share and recommend products that I love and I am certain my readers will too. (Or that I do NOT love and want to warn my readers about!)
If you have charity quilt tops or quilting supplies that you would to donate, please do to the donation page on the blog, FIND IT HERE, and find a worthy place to donate to. These charity quilt makers appreciate your thoughtfulness and generosity so much! If you are unsure of who to donate to, feel free to contact me and I can help. I want to manage your resources well and postage is EXPENSIVE! Please help me help you ship your donations where they are needed most.”
This will be on my About Page for anyone to reference at any time. You can find that HERE. I hope this will alleviate any misunderstandings or expectations about items that are sent my way. I feel bad if I have hurt anyone’s feeling past or present about items that have been sent to me.
Again, I truly appreciate the gifts and items sent to me personally and for the charity quilt program. I have been blessed by them every single time. I simply cannot carry the guilt for projects I haven’t completed. I cannot change my life and schedule to meet the expectation of a gift-giver.
So, if you are sending something, the only way I can accept the item is if no strings are attached. Thank you for understanding.